Guilty Pleasures

Ok, I have a confession. First though, I need to preface it with a disclaimer. My husband and I are both converts to the Church, for me it has been three years, and for DFM is is just over a year. We are both still working out all the kinks involved in the changes to our lives and what is expected of us. Sometimes we do better than others, and some things we have not struggled with at all.

Both of us have turned off movies that we no longer enjoy, and I think this is actually a good thing, considering how desensitized we had become. We do well with the word of wisdom and have never had a problem with tithing. We try and do good each week, not always with success, but the intent is there, and we are both working on President Hinkley’s BoM challenge. But I have a dark little secret…

I dearly love the show Sex and the City. It is totally my guilty pleasure, and I am powerless to try and stop that affection. The artist in me is totally ok with that- I love the excellent writing, the on-location sets, the characters, the lighting, the stories, almost everything about it.

Perhaps it because of the bohemian life I used to live, but sex does not shock me, neither does it embarrass me. Watching the stories of these four women and the turns their lives take is just plain enjoyable- and while I cannot necessarily relate to every situation, there are many that are familiar to me. This kind of ties back to my post yesterday about the paintings I no longer display; they are part of me, but I keep them hidden now. That is kind of like what Sex in the City is to me. It is no longer the life I live, but I know it’s there, and sometimes kind of fun to look and see how we have changed.

That said, many of my friends would blanche at the very thought of watching something so risque and would probably classify it as pornography. To me, there is a huge difference between pornography and fine art that may portray nudes. But I think nude art is perfectly ok, and some of my favorite classes in art school were figure drawing classes. Some of my own very favorite and best paintings are nudes, and this does not bother me in the least. The idea of editing fine art, covering paintings like The Odalisque, or statues of David or Venus is appalling to me, and I find myself wondering if sometimes the modestly thing is carried a tad too far. Not that Sex in the City is in the same league as Michelangelo, but I digress…

But… but… but… I am in a stable, loving and totally faithful marriage with the man I will be with forever, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. So is it really so bad to have a guilty pleasure or two? Yeah, I know what the GA council would be, and that really should be the end of the discussion… but… but…but… (close up on my fingers clutching the doorjamb as I am unwillingly dragging myself from the room)

7 thoughts on “Guilty Pleasures

  1. Oh! It is my guilty pleasure too! I could watch many of the episodes over and over again (as I have been for years), and I never get bored them. It is truly brilliant writing! I think the exciting part of each show is also finding parts and elements of ourselves in each character. The characters are written so well, they are so real. You know I also feel the high standard of living up to certain ethical obligations within my church community but SATC is far to good to ever give up.

  2. If this is the worst thing you haven’t given up, you’re doing good.

    I’ve never seen the show–not my kind of thing at all–but if I were into it, I doubt I’d feel guilty about it. After all, I LOVE Arrested Development, and it’s chock full of really pretty graphic sexual references all the time. I’m wondering if most Mormons even recgonize them, since it seems to be so popular among LDS bloggers.

  3. Your last two posts have spoken volumes to me. As a convert of 8 years, my life just previous can best be defined by the musical “Rent.” And as I’ve watched the previews for the movie, with almost all the same cast members I saw and adored on Broadway, I’ve been suffering from some very mixed emotions. I want to see the movie, but I know what’s in it and the potential it has to be something very inappropriate. Yet, it defines who I was (which is why my husband wants to see it) and who I was defines who I am and will become.

    It was only this past weekend that I realized I didn’t have to bury my old self to be reborn. I’m still working through that thought process…

    Thank you for these last two posts.

  4. I confess.

    I watch Nip/Tuck and Rescue me. And I just started watching Sex in the City and – although I tried to boycott it when it first came out -
    Desperate Housewives. I was a bit shocked when I first started watching them – and well, Nip/Tuck still makes me feel like turning down the tv and making sure the blinds are closed and no one will see me watching it! LOL…

  5. I still crave episodes of “Buffy The Vampire Slayer”. Not exactly uplifting stuff, but I still really like it. I could say all this feminist stuff about how I love to watch a powerful woman struggle with evil demons, but I think it comes down to I just like to watch humans kick supernatural butt.

    Still, the fact that she has, on several occasions, actually had sex with vampires should actually deter me from watching it, don’t you think? There is definitely an “ick” factor to that, I suppose.

    Then again, if the vampire in question happens to be totally hot and drool-worthy, well, it makes it even harder to turn off the TV.

    Oh well. They cancelled the show, and I don’t have cable. I’m saved.

  6. Someone once said that when you say “but” you negate anything that came before it…
    but, I like SATC, used to watch it every week with my hubby when it was on HBO. Watching the SATC girls makes me appreciate my (relatively)stable life and lack of drama.I also like ‘Medium’ which could honestly be considered inappropriate by some, psychics and all that jazz. ‘Charmed’ is , sadly, my favorite show.It’s not overly dirty, but it is pretty mindless.
    ubercyl, Rent is one of my faves and I’m TOTALLY going to see it the day it comes out, you’re my soulmate (not in that way, dirty bird)
    Island Queen, I watched the first season of Nip/Tuck and loved it, but it’s so much naughtier now. I just can’t overcome the feeling that I’m watching soft porn long enough to get past the opening credits.
    I’m sure even Mo’s understand the double entendres, it’s not like we are all naive after all. Most members I know my age are more open about sex. It’s not like we swap explicit stories or anything, but I’m sure we can accept that we all do it(if we’re lucky).

  7. ohhh, brother!!! secret/smeecret. get over yourselves everyone and just enjoy a little decadence once in a while – it’s not going to kill you and you certainly aren’t doing anything that is affecting your relationships with your significant others. in fact, you might learn something new to improve your relationships. (if you all could only see what your church leaders do behind closed doors, what might you find?) i’m sure you all read “harlequin romances” under the covers with flashlights, too. as long as you keep them as harmless fantasies you should be just fine – just enjoy.

    hey, tracy, sorry for the rant. now i know what i’m going to bring you in a brown paperbag.

    love, —t

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