Wigger Mama

Is it ever ok for a mom to completely flip her wig? I pretty much lost it yesterday with my kids. Not that the backstory matters, but I am so tired of being sick, and not getting any sleep and of barfing. That is definitely not my kids problem, but I kind of made it theirs, and I am feeling pretty guilty.

I had a meeting to register Jeffrey for kindergarten; who knew you had to do it almost a year ahead of time? I was trying to get ready and look somewhat presentable, and I went in the bathroom for about 5 minutes- just long enough to put my crazy hair in a pony-tail clip and put on some mascara and lipstick. Literally, five minutes. When I came out, the boys had gotten the Costco muffins from the kitchen, and had crumbled them up on the living room floor, and were on their hands and knees pretending to be puppy dogs. This is the second time this week they have gotten into the muffins and made a huge mess; the first time, I rolled with it, this time, not so much. I blew a gasket.

Everyone yells at their kids sometimes, but I feel really bad now for how much yelling there was. I put them both in their rooms, and cleaned up the mess, steaming the whole time. The part where I think I might have really blown it is next. I calmed down, then went to check on Jeffrey. He was on his bed, but he was playing with toys, a big no-no when on a time-out, and he knows it. It ticked me off so much that I grabbed the toys he was playing with and threw them in the garbage.

admittedly, I overreacted. I was so steamed, and now I have to eat crow with my kids and explain that Mama was wrong to yell, grab toys and throw them away. I acted like the two year old, and am suitably embarrassed and chagrined. How does one recover her dignity and authority with her kids after acting like a ticked toddler myself?

One thought on “Wigger Mama

  1. The Baby Whisperer insists that we apologize and explain our behavior to our toddlers when we lose it (which we all do, by the way), but says to move on, because dwelling on it puts too much control in their hands, and kids, contrary to behavior and popular belief, actually don’t like to be in control. They like their parents to be parents. So, apologize and say that Mommy was out of control, etc, but make it brief and move on so the kids can feel comfortable with your authority again.

    FYI–I’ve engaged in a shouting match about who was to blame for the mess on the kitchen floor with my 3 year old. Yeah, we are all guilty of acting like our children!

Comments are closed.