Not that I’m glad or anything, but what an amazing gift amid the ashes and rubble. Sarah McLachlan went through a divorce last year and is now raising her two children alone- and guess what her new album is about? I can’t breathe it’s so good. She says:
“I thought I was this person, and part of that is the artifice of the fantasy that we build up to hold up the perceived reality,” she explains, having clearly given it a lot of thought. “It’s all kind of a big illusion: the white picket fence and the perfect marriage and the kids. Check that box off, check that box off, and move forward. And then it all falls apart underneath you, and you’re left to pick up the pieces and sort out, ‘Well, who am I then?’ Because I thought that’s what I was and who I was, and I’m not all that. Or that’s not my life any more and how do I move forward from this place?”
From Forgiveness:
And you ask for forgiveness
You’re asking too much
I have sheltered my heart in a place you can’t touch
Don’t believe when you tell me your love is real
Because you don’t know much about heaven boy
If you have to hurt to feel
Dandelion Mama 
Beautiful, I am too going through a separation and a eventual divorce. Truer words have not been spoken. It’s the feeling of losing a huge part of yourself, and then figuring out who you are now, that rips your soul to pieces.
Poignant. Wow!
Sarah McLachlan always seems to have a way at being poignant. Glad you found something to relate to.
We all have illusions, married or not. Definitely I will bow to you and Sarah, that the shattered illusions you have adjusted to are more destructive than mine, but even staying married isn’t a bowl of cherries. I think illusions are shattered anytime we move forward in life and learn. I think you and Sarah are brave to not only go through divorce (brave to face the stigma) own it as part of your life process, and move forward sharing it.
(I hope this is coming out the way I intend it too – we can all relate to shattered illusions is my point.)